Part of the uncertainty children and teens feel after a death is the abstract nature of their feelings. Their feelings can be opposing, extreme, and very unpredictable. They may already struggle with communication under ideal circumstances let alone the extreme circumstances that accompany grief. Creating something with their hands is a way to help make those abstract feelings concrete. Make a collage, plant a garden, play an instrument, decorate a memory box, paint, draw, color, anything. Don’t focus on the product, focus on the process. Abstract feelings seem more manageable in a concrete form.